When is Capricorn season in 2023?

This year, Capricorn season extends from Dec. 22, 2023 to Jan. 19, 2024, and we get to look forward to Mercury being in retrograde for the first part of it. (RIP.) While Capricorn energy “is all about getting stuff done and focusing on our goals,” the Mercury retrograde means that “instead of pushing forward, we will be focusing on reviewing our overall life strategy,” Narayana Montúfar, senior astrologer at Astrology.com, tells SheKnows.

Luckily, we’ll be getting some celestial help during this time. Between Dec. 21 and Dec. 31, “Jupiter—the planet of luck and optimism—will be very active,” Montúfar explains, which means we’ll “be able to distinguish which paths of opportunity will be available to us.”

Capricorn traits: Determined go-getters

The thing to know about Capricorns is that they just get things done. As a Libra, I try my best to understand the merits of all Zodiac signs and their seasons and energies, even those that don’t always make sense to me personally. Decisive and efficient, the world is a to-do list that they’re going to finish for Capricorns. They’re just like that. A friend of mine dated a Capricorn once who realized she had a broken shower head and showed up one day to just replace it. Just like saw a thing to be done, did it with confidence and rolled on by. (I cannot relate but love that for them, TBH.)

As we say in all of our zodiac sex tips, every sign works with a different season/planet differently and works differently in your chart! Your personal birth chart (calculated via birth date, location and time) contains all sorts of diverse parts of your you-ness that make up your specific personality. So be sure to check your sun sign, your moon sign and your ascendant/rising sign (think: your ego, who you are when you’re alone on a deep personal level and the mask you wear/how others see you), as well as your other prominent planets out for a full zodiac picture (Mars and Venus are always interesting in the realm of sex and relationships!) — and you might benefit from a sit down with an astrologer to go over your chart and get an understanding of how well you play with other signs. It can be a really special and transformative experience!

Capricorn season sex tip: It’s time to take charge

With what we know about Capricorns — they like running the show and doing what/who they came to do (and more importantly doing ’em well) — we think it’s a fine time to embrace your bossy side or encourage it in your partner. “Capricorn energy is stoic and incredibly focused on doing anything as best as possible, and that includes sex,” Montúfar says. “This is a take-charge kind of energy, calling for one person to take the lead and the other one to fully surrender!” If you happen to find yourself on a Capricorn’s to-do list or simply want to embrace that energy in bed this season, keep reading.

In the bedroom this can most obviously take the form of leaning into kinky power play, in one form or another. “If there is ever a time to try having sex tied up, it is now during Capricorn season,” Montúfar says. “It allows for a full-on surrender, take-charge dynamic, satisfying the ambitious and authoritarian vibe of the season. Trading places is recommended for both parties to feel the sense of empowerment this can bring!”

Embracing your dominant side (or submissive side) can also teach you a lot about the things that get you both excited and make you feel valued and cared for. Maybe try setting out a rule or two for the encounter, introduce some restraints or simply put the planning firmly in one of your hands (and heads) for the day. (Do not underestimate how hot a creative, thorough and well-executed plan can be, folks!)

Montúfar also recommends positions like seated face-to-face to deepen your connection and embrace the open energy of Capricorn season. This position “sets us up for staring at each other’s eyes, helping us warm things up and better read what the other one of feeling and enjoying,” she explains.

You can also try exciting positions like hot seat (the penetrating partner lies back with their legs and feet off the bed, and the receiving partner sits on top), or desk domination, where the penetrating partner stands and the receiving partner lies back on a desk or table. Hot seat “allows the receiving partner to be in control of the depth, angle, and rate of penetration,” Montúfar explains, while desk domination “allows for the receiver to totally surrender, leaving the giver in complete charge!”

There are also couple of dates to be aware of this season. The first is Jan. 12, when Jupiter magnifies the energy of Mars, the planet of sex and drive. “Plan a hot date,” Montúfar suggests. “Tonight, our stamina reaches climax, so make the best of it!”

Then, between Jan. 14 and Jan. 19, Pluto — known as “one of the kinkiest planets,” Montúfar says — will be “incredibly active.” She explains, “Pluto’s penetrating energy gives us X-ray vision, allowing us to figure out the other person’s truest and deepest desires. This will be a time in which a lot of us will be pushing our own boundaries in bed, as our need to connect at a deeper level will be present and almost insatiable. Think of long, slow, and deep movements as well as make-out sessions!”

Capricorns are all about taking charge, so lean into that energy in whatever way it resonates for you. If it means getting on top and introducing some power play into your sex life, go for it; if it means initiating sex or showing your partner it’s a priority to you, that’s great too. (Knowing your partner prioritizes your one-on-one time is incredibly sexy, after all.) If you embody the Capricorn energy, moving intentionally and confidently toward your goal (pleasure for yourself and your partner), you’ll find that there’s something undeniably hot about that determination.

A version of this post was originally published in 2021.

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That’s the rule a husband broke this year, according to a post from his partner on Reddit. The partner, or OP (Reddit-speak for original poster), took to the site’s Am I the Asshole forum for a second opinion after realizing that their gifts this Christmas were underwhelming, to say the least. At best, you could call them “household items,” at worst, tools for chores. Pro tip: gifting your partner a vacuum cleaner they didn’t ask for is a surefire way to show that you see them as a servant and not much else!

So what exactly were the gifts, and how did OP react when they found out about them? And of course, what did Reddit have to say about it all? (Spoiler: they don’t think OP’s the asshole.) Read on for the full story.

When it comes to cunnilingus positions, “comfort is key,” sex coach Jenna Switzer tells SheKnows. The receiving partner can feel “very exposed,” she explained, so good technique and trust with your partner is paramount. Communication and letting your partner what feels good and what doesn’t is also super important, adds Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (aka Dr. Tara), a sex and relationship coach, sex expert on TikTok, and professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. When done right, cunnilingus can be incredible at “stimulating and building arousal” for people with vulvas.

The entire landscape of cunnilingus positions expands far beyond our go-tos, and it’s just waiting to be discovered. Isn’t it time we collectively explored the frontiers that lay just outside our norms? Here are eight cunnilingus positions you probably haven’t tried yet, but you and your partner will totally want to add to your bedroom repertoire.

Sideways 69

This is an easy variation to start exploring with your partner, Switzer says. It’s the “classic 69,” she says,” but with both partners on their sides rather than one on top of the other.” It’s comfortable but still hot, and familiar enough to get you ready to experiment even more.

All Fours

Sitting on someone’s face can be awesome, because it gives your partner direct access to your nether parts. But it can also be intimidating, awkward or straight-up uncomfortable, because, well, you’re pressing all of your weight onto someone’s face. 

The All Fours plays to the strengths of sitting on your partner’s face without forcing you to literally sit on your partner’s face. By getting on your hands and knees above your lying partner, you’re supporting yourself — and doing so in a generally comfortable way. This also gives your partner the option of “pleasuring the whole area,” Dr. Tara adds, including or not including your anus. So basically, it’s all the intensity you expect from face-sitting, without the discomfort.

Pillow Princess

This popular position, suggested by Dr. Tara, is a simple variation on your typical legs-spread option. The vulva owner places a pillow under their butt, lifting their pelvic area and “making it easy to receive,” Dr. Tara explains.

Lean Forward

An easy way to switch things up? Stand during oral sex. While most cunnilingus positions involve you sitting or lying down, the Lean Forward has you standing up and — you guessed it — leaning forward while your partner kneels behind you. Feel free to use the walls for stability, be they in your bedroom, your living room, or your shower.

Wrapped Eagle

The Wrapped Eagle offers a slight twist on the most classic of cunnilingus positions. Instead of lying down with your legs splayed out, have your legs wrapped around your partner’s head. This can mitigate some of the vulnerability associated with the more obvious Spread Eagle position — plus, it allows you to control the pressure. Simply pull your partner closer to you when you’re looking to up the intensity.

Forbidden Fruit

Fans of doggy-style will surely appreciate this approach to cunnilingus. Get on all fours — but on your knees and elbows, rather than your knees and hands for the Forbidden Fruit. Once you’ve gotten comfortable, invite your partner to join you. From behind, they’ll have direct access to your genitals.

Modified 69

Modified 69 took everything you love about face-sitting and combined it with everything you love about 69. Have your partner lie with their head and shoulders hanging off the side of the bed as you stand up. Walk toward them so you’re straddling over their face. From there, you can bend over to engage in a little reciprocity, or just enjoy being on the receiving end for a little while.

The nice part? You can control the intensity by bending your knees as much or as little as you want. You can also support yourself by leaning forward and placing your hands on the bed.

Virgo

This incredibly intense position will have you standing as your partner explores you from an entirely new angle. For the Virgo, simply stand up straight, with your back against the wall. Your partner can sit below you in whatever position they choose —so long as they can reach your genitals. From there, they can perform cunnilingus as long as desired, and you can always move to the bed if you want a softer surface.

Kick Back

If lying down during cunnilingus isn’t really your thing, you might appreciate the Kick Back. A seated take on a classic, the Kick Back offers your partner direct access to your nether bits without leaving you splayed out on the bed. This is especially alluring if you’ve got a comfy chair to partake in. The next time you’re looking to change things up, you know exactly where to go.

All Curled Up

This one is a little more vulnerable, but so satisfying. Lie down, then bend your knees and hug your legs as close to your chest as they’ll go. The All Curled Up position will introduce an entirely new angle to oral sex, which may pave the way for some finger play or sex toy supplementation, too.

A version of this post was originally published in 2019.

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OK friends, when you think of porn, are you immediately turned off? Yeah, we hear that. It’s 2023, and yet it’s still not an easy task to find porn that you actually want to watch, meaning a website featuring hot, good porn that doesn’t overwhelmingly prioritize the male gaze or the male orgasm. Sure, you can wade through the videos to find one where female pleasure and (over-the-top-slash-faked) female orgasms are the focus — but even then, there’s the distinct feeling that because of the way she’s being filmed, there is still a man calling the shots. Let’s be honest, even if you’re watching it with a male partner, you may get the sense that the porn you’re trying to enjoy isn’t for you. And that can make it harder to lose yourself in the story or the sensations the way you’d want to — the way that you should be able to, with good porn.

So, where are the porn sites that cater to the female gaze, that honor female sexuality in all its beautiful forms and that don’t objectify women in a way that will have you itching to take a shower immediately after viewing (in a bad way)? Where are the porn sites that feel current and up to date with what we want from sexual media today?

Fear no more, friend, because we have found some legitimately great porn sites for you. If you’re tired of porn that feels overwhelmingly straight and cis-male-centric, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the following selection of sites. And while we’re at it, it’s probably the right time to treat yourself to some new sex toys for good measure.

Quick warning, though: please take care and don’t browse this one at your desk, because you’ll be able to access some NSFW websites from here on out. Click with caution and, when it’s time for You-time, have fun!

A version of this story was published on April 2018.

For patients, the experience is jarring and scary. “It’s not like I’m not attracted to my partner anymore; nothing gets me going,” one person wrote in a Reddit thread. “Not porn, not erotic writing, nothing that usually worked works. I do feel slightly broken in a way.”

“I honestly feel disgusted and uncomfortable by the idea of sex, and even cuddling makes me want to crawl out of my skin sometimes,” another woman wrote. “I had a pretty high sex drive prior to the meds, so I feel like my body is betraying me and it’s also impacting my relationship.”

Losing your libido is stressful no matter your relationship status, whether you’ve been having sex regularly or once in a blue moon. But for people in relationships, the anxiety may be even worse if your partner is impacted by the shift. And on the flip side, partners may want to help without knowing how, or if they even should.

“I’ve… mentioned to [my girlfriend, who’s on an antidepressant] that I have needs and she told me she felt like I was guilt tripping her,” one person wrote on Reddit. “She told me it seems like sex is the most important thing to me in this relationship, which couldn’t be farther from the truth but I do want it to be a part of our relationship.”

It’s an issue with multiple layers: a caring partner won’t want to push for sex when it’s not wanted, but has their own needs that aren’t being met. Meanwhile, the partner on antidepressants may feel pressured to put sex above their mental health and wellbeing at a time when they most need to prioritize themselves.

Antidepressants, sex drive, and relationships can form a tangled web. So how exactly do you find your way out?

How antidepressants affect sex drive

SSRIs can impact sex drive due to their “mechanism of increasing serotonin levels in the brain,” Aliyah Moore, PhD, a certified sex therapist and relationship expert at SexualAlpha, tells SheKnows. “Although SSRIs are useful in treating mood disorders, their serotonin-boosting effects might upset the delicate neurotransmitter balance that is necessary for a sexual response,” Moore explains. “Arousal and sexual desire are frequently diminished as a result of this interference.”

Experiencing these changes is uniquely challenging, potentially leading to “feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or a loss of self-esteem,” Moore says. You might feel separated from your own sexuality, which for many people is “a crucial part of [your] identity and self-expression.”

Losing the desire to have sex while you’re in a relationship can be especially upsetting. “Many relationships depend heavily on sex and intimacy as a way to communicate love, build emotional ties, and enjoy mutual pleasure,” Moore says. “A decreased libido in one partner can result in misunderstandings, rejection sentiments, or concerns about the long-term health of the relationship from the other partner.” The result: a vicious cycle of tension around sexual activity of any kind, “which may result in avoidance behaviors and a further decline in intimacy.”

The other partner in the relationship may experience guilt for having sexual urges or feel hesitant to initiate sex out of concern about pressuring their partner. They may feel “lonely, frustrated, and hopeless about getting the sex they want, and even sexually rejected,” says Katie Ziskind, LMFT, certified sex therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching. “Constant sexual rejection can be very challenging and lead to conflicts and massive disconnection within the relationship.”

Antidepressants and libido: navigating sex drive changes in a relationship

If antidepressants have impacted your sex drive, your first move is to talk to your doctor. “Such side effects are common,” Moore emphasized. “Your doctor can tell you whether the change in libido is likely due to the medicine and may recommend alternate treatments or changes to your present regimen.” Decreasing your dosage, taking “drug holidays” (stopping the medication for a period of time), or switching to another medication may improve libido without quitting antidepressants altogether, studies say. However, it’s crucial to talk to your doctor before implementing any of these changes; they can help you explore the best option for your body and go about it in a safe way.

It’s also possible that other factors are exacerbating the dip in your sexual desire. “Depression, anxiety, lifestyle, and relationships can all play a role in libido,” Moore says. A sex therapist or sexual health counselor can provide strategies for dealing with changes in libido and advice on maintaining a healthy sexual relationship.

And if you’re a partner to someone experiencing these changes, know that empathy is absolutely crucial. When a partner loses sex drive due to an antidepressant, it may trigger your own fears and insecurities, making you anxious about your relationship and whether your partner is still attracted to you. That’s why it’s important to remember that “your partner’s decreased libido is a side effect of their medicine rather than a reflection of their feelings for you,” Moore says.

Prioritize talking honestly and without bias, she adds. “Instead of putting pressure or assigning blame, encourage them to talk about how they’re feeling and show your own emotions in a helpful way.” You may also want to educate yourself on your partner’s medication and how it affects their desire for sex. “In the relationship, this comprehension can promote tolerance and empathy,” Moore explains. You can also see if your partner is interested in non-sexual forms of intimacy, like cuddling.

Creating intimacy without sex: tips from a sex therapist

If you or your partner are experiencing a low sex drive or other sexual side effects from antidepressants, try exploring “fresh ways of sexual connection that are not dependent on typical arousal patterns,” Moore suggests. “This could include focusing on emotional intimacy, sensual interaction, and non-genital pleasure.” In general, Ziskind says, “take the pressure off penetrative sex being the end goal.”

A few ways do that:

Sensate focus exercises. “This technique involves structured, gradual touch to different parts of the body without the goal of sexual arousal,” Moore explained. It’s designed to “increase awareness of bodily sensations and enhance the couple’s connection.” You can start with non-genital touch and, if you want, gradually progress to more intimate areas over time. This method can help you rediscover each other’s bodies in a “relaxed, non-judgmental” way, Moore says, allowing you to “reintroduce touch and intimacy into the relationship” while adjusting to libido changes.

Sexual check-ins. Simply put, these are “regular and intentional conversations between partners about their sexual relationships,” Moore says. This is a sacred time for you and your partner to talk about your desires, concerns, and needs without fear of judgment, helping you both find understanding and strength in the relationship. “The crucial factor is to approach these conversations with understanding, attentive listening, and a mutual desire for growth so that both partners feel validated and encouraged in their pursuit of sexual wellness,” Moore says.

Ramping up foreplay. If you and your partner are still mentally and emotionally interested in sex but struggling physically to get aroused, go all-in on foreplay, Ziskind says. If your partner has a vagina, support them with “at least 45-90 minutes of foreplay on various erogenous zones before touching the clitoral area,” she advises. “Many couples don’t spend enough time building desire, which is what foreplay does.” Increasing foreplay is a “key component in rebuilding desire and sexual connection,” Ziskind adds. She recommends focusing on “relaxing into the touch rather than trying to perform in any way.”

Schedule times to experiment. If you let go of any kind of “end goal” (like full penetration or orgasm) for sex, a lot of fun possibilities start to present themselves. Prioritize these times in your day. “Set up regular times to cuddle that don’t have to lead to sex,” Ziskind says. “Have times set up to shower naked and wash each other’s bodies. Give each other back rubs with coconut oil.” If you and your partner are up for it, you can also try sexual experiences that end with oral sex, rather than penetrative sex.

Masturbate. If the partner on antidepressants is able and wants to masturbate, this can be another way to promote intimacy within the relationship. “A person on antidepressants can practice regular masturbation and self-pleasure and then tell their partner about it, sharing the areas of their body that they like caressed, the type of pressure they like, and their sexual fantasies,” Ziskind explains. “Self-pleasure helps build an awareness of what you like in your own body, and then you can better communicate that in shared sexual experiences.”

Be kind to yourself — and your partner

Experiencing changes in sex drive is stressful and scary no matter what the situation, but especially when the changes are triggered by antidepressants. Throw a relationship in the mix, and you’re in a situation full of anxiety and insecurity. It makes patience, empathy, and constant communication all the more crucial.

The goal, Moore says, is to build a “holistic and adaptive approach to sexuality,” which requires “communication, an openness to new experiences, and a commitment to understanding and adjusting to each other’s needs” in the context of this mental health journey. It’s not easy, but love, compassion, and understanding can help you and your partner tackle this journey together.

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This 29-year-old wife has been married to her husband, 28, for seven years, and they’ve been together for nine total. The couple got married out of necessity (more on that in a minute) and our OP (aka original poster, or the person who posted the thread, in Reddit-speak) says their relationship has “flourished” over the last year. “Arguments are rare and we are pretty good at coming to understandings and apologizing when necessary,” she says.

That is, until OP’s husband came to her in October, out of seemingly nowhere, saying he wants an open relationship. OP had a strong reaction and made a quick decision, but now she’s wondering — and asking Reddit — if she did the right thing. So what exactly happened, and what does the Internet think? Let’s get into it.

The husband (aka OP, or original poster, in Reddit-speak) explains in the post that he and his wife (ages 32 and 34, respectively) just had their first baby today — as in, the day of the post. As in, he snuck away from his newborn child and recovering wife to post on the Reddit AITA (aka Am I the Asshole?) forum, of all things, in the hours after the birth. (No, we don’t have proof that he snuck, but we can imagine.)

What could be so important that he would use this precious time to post about it online? Please join us on this ride with us and find out.

The passionate, mysterious vibes of Scorpio season have come and gone, and we head into the final sign of our the calendar year: Sagittarius. The archer and adventurer, Sags are known for wanting more — intellectually, physically, you name it. Ruled by Jupiter (think big! happy! optimistic and ambitious), your friendly neighborhood Sagittarius isn’t one to lay back and enjoy the ride in their relationships. Instead, they want explosive physical and emotional chemistry and adventurous partners that can keep up with them.

“Sagittarius season is all about embracing life’s pleasures,” Narayana Montúfar, senior astrologer at Astrology.com, tells SheKnows. Scorpio season “was all about leaving behind what no longer served us by practicing radical transformation,” she says; now Sagittarius season is here, reminding us to “bask in the glory of the results that come from taking that plunge.”

Sagittarius season is the time to lean into the “go big or go home” mindset. “As the last fire sign of the zodiac, the sign of the Archer does nothing halfway!” Montúfar says. “Whatever it does, it does so with excitement and gusto. Out of the entire year, the month ruled by Sagittarius inspires us to think big, explore, and see all the possibilities that lie ahead of us. It is a wonderful time to learn, travel, and bring people together.”

As we frequently note, every sign plays with a different season and planet differently! Your chart is chock full o’ cosmic knowledge and traits that make up your specific personality. So be sure to check your sun sign, your moon sign and your ascendant/rising sign, as well as your other prominent planets out for a full zodiac picture (Mars and Venus are always interesting in the realm of sex and relationships!). You might even benefit from a sit down with an astrologer to go over your chart and get an understanding of how well you play with other signs.

But, in the meantime, if you want to ride out Sagittarius season with a bang and some whimpers, we’re recommending you channel your inner adventurer, pump up your energy, and seek out some exciting, active, and athletic sex positions.

Sorry my lovely starfish friends, this isn’t your time. (Save those pillow princess vibes for Taurus season!) Instead, try embracing the full range of motions you and your partner have at your disposal to aggressively and enthusiastically seek out the kind of pleasure you want and need. You may roll out of bed later with sore thighs or feeling like you did a few too many planks, but the shared experience of working some sexy aggression out together is powerful one.

Montúfar recommends a couple specific sex positions to bring in that exciting, athletic Sag energy:

Mopping: the receiving partner places their hands on the floor and lifts their hips (think downward dog, but with your legs as bent as needed!) while the penetrating partner enters them from behind. “This playful position allows for deep penetration, which totally resonates with the Sagittarian mantra,” Montúfar says (go big or go home!). “Since it’s also a position that does not require a bed, it makes room for the spontaneous vibe of the season.”

Expanding: the receiving partner lies in a spooning position in front of the penetrating partner, lifting and lowering their top leg as desired to play with the depth of penetration. This one works for Sag season because “‘Expansion’ is one of the keywords for both Jupiter and Sagittarius,” Montúfar explains. “What’s fun about this position is that it brings attention to the areas that never get it.” While it may not seem exciting at first, “it totally is — especially for the receiver!”

The Golden Arch: the receiving partner sits on top of the penetrating partner, facing them, with their legs on the penetrating partner’s legs or their ankles on their shoulders. This is the definition of an athletic sex position; you’ll work your triceps and shoulders while allowing for eye-to-eye contact, “which can be very exciting — just like Sagittarian energy,” Montúfar reminds us. “Unlike the energy of other zodiac signs, Sagittarius inspires us to stay present in the moments and truly connect with the other person while having sex.”

Of course, everyone has a different definition of what’s “exciting” in the bedroom. The idea is to simply get out of your comfort zone, whatever that looks like for you, while knowing that the strong Sagittarius energy of this season will support you through it.

“Be adventurous and take risks! If you’ve always wanted to have a threesome or [try] sex in public, this might be the season that inspires you to try it,” Montúfar says. “Sagittarius season is the time of the year in which we have more openness to trying new things. How do you know you’ve never liked it if you’ve never tried it?”

Carry that attitude through the rest of the year, in and out of the bedroom, and just see where it takes you. And don’t worry: You can always cool down with some sleepy, lazy sex later. You’ll have earned it.

A version of this post was originally published in 2020.

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In the midst of the holiday hustle and bustle, it’s important you squeeze in some much-needed self care. Our favorite way to unwind after making our lists and checking them twice? Stocking up on some sex toys to make our worries melt away, because let’s be real: The last few years have really given us a lot to freak out about.

But never fear, Black Friday deals for sex toy are here! From LELO (you may have read about our intense love for some of their newer vibes) to Unbound, there are plenty of Black Friday and Cyber Monday sex toy and wellness sales underway to get you in the holiday spirit. In some places, you can save up to 80 percent off — so that’s basically free, right?

So, grab a comfy spot on the couch, fire up that credit card, and get to shopping these sales — but don’t wait too long, it’s quite literally one of your last chances to snag sex toy deals this year.

Best Black Friday Sex Toy Deals at a Glance

Best clitoral vibrator: Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator, $79, originally $99

Best suction vibrator: LELO Enigma, $149.25, originally $199

Best G-spot and clitoral vibrator: Womanizer OG, $159, originally $199

Best double whammy: Fun Factor Next-Level Sex Kit, $119.99, originally $134.99

Cutest toy: Unbound Puff, $33.60, originally $48

Best TikTok-approved toy: PinkCherry Rose vibrator, $24.95, originally $49.90

Best deal: Honey Play Box’s buy two toys, get the third free

Best couples toy: Dame Eva II, $98, originally $140

Best labia and vulva vibrator: MysteryVibe Legato, $149, originally $162

Best collection: WeVibe x Womanizer Silver Delights Collection, $139, originally $199

Best rabbit vibrator: JimmyJane Reflexx Rabbit, $39.19, originally $55.99

Prettiest vibrator: OSUGA Moonflow Vibrator, $53.40, originally $89

Lovehoney

A go-to for all things bedroom related, Lovehoney is serving up to 70 percent off on select essentials, sex toys, bondage gear and lingerie — and they aren’t kidding when they call them mega deals. You could spend hours browsing through their offerings, but be sure to scoop up one of the cult-beloved sex toys (like Womanizer Pro40), a stealth and kinky under-bed restraint set (perfect for BDSM beginners, just play safely!) or ROMP clitoral stimulator for some major bang for your buck.

BEST CLITORAL STIMULATOR

Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

$79 $99 20% off

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LELO

Despite being beloved by the likes of Beyoncé and Goop who hardly need to be bargain hunting, luxury sex toy brand LELO doesn’t skimp on the deals either come Black Friday and Cyber Monday. With their sale section broken up into categories ranging from 25 percent off to 60 percent off, you can almost definitely find something worth scooping up this season.

You can grab their double-threat suction toy Enigma for just $149, Sona 2 Cruise for only $112 and Sila for under $127.

BEST SUCTION VIBRATOR

LELO Enigma

$149.25 $199 25% off

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Womanizer

You can score up to 50 percent off on products from Womanizer during Black Friday, including collections like their All-About-Us Collection. You can also score their newest toy, the Womanizer OG, which targets both your clit and your G-spot.

Fun Factory

Offering up to 30 percent off site-wide on toys and 10 percent off on accessories until November 29, Fun Factory is definitely a can’t-miss spot for sexy Black Friday and Cyber Monday goodies. We love a lot of what’s up for sale, but the kits and sets (like the Next-Level Sex Kit) are stand-outs just for the sheer amount of bangage you’ll get for your bucks.

Unbound

One of my favorite sex toy brands out there, Unbound, is offering 30 percent off sitewide for Black Friday. So take the opportunity to pick up Clutch (their rabbit vibe I fell in love with this year) or Puff (my favorite toy of the last few years) or maybe check out some of their fun, aesthetic kink options (these cuffs are legit cute?) or their super adorable and powerful cordless wand Ollie.

CUTEST TOY

Unbound Puff

$33.60 $48 30% off

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Pinkcherry

Using the code BLACK, Pinkcherry is offering up to 80 percent off across their site. Among the super discounted items the TikTok-viral, super-popular Rose-shaped vibrator (with amazing suction), which is 79 percent off, or these stylish handcuffs that you could totally wear as jewelry.

Honey Play Box

Three’s company! Honey Play Box is offering a buy two, get one free deal on their toys — meaning you can score a hefty upgrade to your collection in one shopping cart.

Dame

In honor of the shopping holidays, Dame is offering deals up to 60% off, and the sale even includes bundles! Now’s your chance to get the cult-fave Eva II hands-free vibrator that’s got everyone talking or even their crowd-pleasing bundle (called, literally, The Crowd Pleaser) that includes three luxe toys and lube.

BEST COUPLES TOY

Dame Eva II

$98 $140 30% off

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MysteryVibe

MysteryVibe’s Black Friday sale is slashing prices on tons of their amazing vibrators including their flexible labia and vulva vibrator, Legato, and on gift sets like this sweet Crescendo 2 gift set that comes with Pjur Aqua lube and some play cards to help you level-up your toy game.

BEST LABIA AND VULVA VIBRATOR

MysteryVibe Legato

$162 $249 35% off

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WeVibe

A longtime fave of ours, We-Vibe is offering up to 50 percent off certain vibes — including a few collections. The Silver Delights Collection is a particular stand-out (at 30 percent off for both toys) but you can also score their small but mighty mini-massager Touch for just $79.

BEST COLLECTION

WeVibe x Womanizer Silver Delights Collection

Buy Now $139

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JimmyJane

With savings up to 60 percent off on some of JimmyJane’s amazing toys, you can score their Dual Gripp toy, Reflexx Rabbit for under $70.

Osuga

With the code BF2023, you can score something sweet and sexy from Osuga for 40 percent off. I’d keep your eye on a unique and pretty toy like their OSUGA Moonflow or Cuddly Bird vibrators.

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