Now that we’ve firmly exited that hyped-up, hyper-active Sagittarius part of winter (anyone else tired? I’m tired), it’s time to celebrate the vibes of Capricorn and all they can do for you in your sex life. So gear up and direct your square-pupilled goat gaze on the prize. And this season in particular, as you think and reflect on things you’ve done and things (and people) you want to do, it’s fine if you’re feeling a bit bossy and in the mood to get what you want.
When is Capricorn season in 2023?
This year, Capricorn season extends from Dec. 22, 2023 to Jan. 19, 2024, and we get to look forward to Mercury being in retrograde for the first part of it. (RIP.) While Capricorn energy “is all about getting stuff done and focusing on our goals,” the Mercury retrograde means that “instead of pushing forward, we will be focusing on reviewing our overall life strategy,” Narayana Montúfar, senior astrologer at Astrology.com, tells SheKnows.
Luckily, we’ll be getting some celestial help during this time. Between Dec. 21 and Dec. 31, “Jupiter—the planet of luck and optimism—will be very active,” Montúfar explains, which means we’ll “be able to distinguish which paths of opportunity will be available to us.”
Capricorn traits: Determined go-getters
The thing to know about Capricorns is that they just get things done. As a Libra, I try my best to understand the merits of all Zodiac signs and their seasons and energies, even those that don’t always make sense to me personally. Decisive and efficient, the world is a to-do list that they’re going to finish for Capricorns. They’re just like that. A friend of mine dated a Capricorn once who realized she had a broken shower head and showed up one day to just replace it. Just like saw a thing to be done, did it with confidence and rolled on by. (I cannot relate but love that for them, TBH.)
As we say in all of our zodiac sex tips, every sign works with a different season/planet differently and works differently in your chart! Your personal birth chart (calculated via birth date, location and time) contains all sorts of diverse parts of your you-ness that make up your specific personality. So be sure to check your sun sign, your moon sign and your ascendant/rising sign (think: your ego, who you are when you’re alone on a deep personal level and the mask you wear/how others see you), as well as your other prominent planets out for a full zodiac picture (Mars and Venus are always interesting in the realm of sex and relationships!) — and you might benefit from a sit down with an astrologer to go over your chart and get an understanding of how well you play with other signs. It can be a really special and transformative experience!
Capricorn season sex tip: It’s time to take charge
With what we know about Capricorns — they like running the show and doing what/who they came to do (and more importantly doing ’em well) — we think it’s a fine time to embrace your bossy side or encourage it in your partner. “Capricorn energy is stoic and incredibly focused on doing anything as best as possible, and that includes sex,” Montúfar says. “This is a take-charge kind of energy, calling for one person to take the lead and the other one to fully surrender!” If you happen to find yourself on a Capricorn’s to-do list or simply want to embrace that energy in bed this season, keep reading.
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In the bedroom this can most obviously take the form of leaning into kinky power play, in one form or another. “If there is ever a time to try having sex tied up, it is now during Capricorn season,” Montúfar says. “It allows for a full-on surrender, take-charge dynamic, satisfying the ambitious and authoritarian vibe of the season. Trading places is recommended for both parties to feel the sense of empowerment this can bring!”
Embracing your dominant side (or submissive side) can also teach you a lot about the things that get you both excited and make you feel valued and cared for. Maybe try setting out a rule or two for the encounter, introduce some restraints or simply put the planning firmly in one of your hands (and heads) for the day. (Do not underestimate how hot a creative, thorough and well-executed plan can be, folks!)
Montúfar also recommends positions like seated face-to-face to deepen your connection and embrace the open energy of Capricorn season. This position “sets us up for staring at each other’s eyes, helping us warm things up and better read what the other one of feeling and enjoying,” she explains.
You can also try exciting positions like hot seat (the penetrating partner lies back with their legs and feet off the bed, and the receiving partner sits on top), or desk domination, where the penetrating partner stands and the receiving partner lies back on a desk or table. Hot seat “allows the receiving partner to be in control of the depth, angle, and rate of penetration,” Montúfar explains, while desk domination “allows for the receiver to totally surrender, leaving the giver in complete charge!”
There are also couple of dates to be aware of this season. The first is Jan. 12, when Jupiter magnifies the energy of Mars, the planet of sex and drive. “Plan a hot date,” Montúfar suggests. “Tonight, our stamina reaches climax, so make the best of it!”
Then, between Jan. 14 and Jan. 19, Pluto — known as “one of the kinkiest planets,” Montúfar says — will be “incredibly active.” She explains, “Pluto’s penetrating energy gives us X-ray vision, allowing us to figure out the other person’s truest and deepest desires. This will be a time in which a lot of us will be pushing our own boundaries in bed, as our need to connect at a deeper level will be present and almost insatiable. Think of long, slow, and deep movements as well as make-out sessions!”
Capricorns are all about taking charge, so lean into that energy in whatever way it resonates for you. If it means getting on top and introducing some power play into your sex life, go for it; if it means initiating sex or showing your partner it’s a priority to you, that’s great too. (Knowing your partner prioritizes your one-on-one time is incredibly sexy, after all.) If you embody the Capricorn energy, moving intentionally and confidently toward your goal (pleasure for yourself and your partner), you’ll find that there’s something undeniably hot about that determination.
A version of this post was originally published in 2021.
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